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In Pre-K I had two very good friends.  At the age of three what do we really know about friends, let alone “good friends”?  As I grew older I formulated other friendships.  I did the whole Best Friends Forever thing in my high school yearbooks, and swore we’d be friend for life.  Time passes and people grow.  Most of those people are no longer in my life.  I guess they were there for a season, and when that season ended so did the friendship.

Fast forward to a new millennium, and here I am.  As I look over my life I see how truly blessed I am to associate with the people I now call “friends”.  A few of them have been there for the long ride; two since first grade, and one since high school.  Majority of the rest of the people I call my friends came along in college or shortly thereafter.  We were all growing up and finding ourselves together.  At some point we clicked, and life long friendships were born.  Even though most of us have moved away and we rarely see each other, we are still “friends”.  It’s not about the quantity of time we spend on the phone or emailing one another, it’s about the quality of the experiences we’ve shared.  I have a couple of friends that I’ve known since the late nineties.  While they weren’t around for my asymmetrical bob, the BSU years, and the infamous bone crusher incident of ’95 they are still my friends.

How do you define your friends?  It’s not necessarily the person that is ready to hit the clubs with you every night.  While he/she might be a friend now, what happens in twenty years when you are no longer interested in the club scene?  Do you really see this friendship growing with you as your path in life changes? 

There is nothing wrong with “work friends”, the “friend from exercise class”, or the “friend that does your taxes”.  They are good friends to have too, but today I’m talking about those tried and true friends.  The ride or die friends that would gladly cut somebody for the sake of saving my life if it came down to it!   The friends that taught me not to take myself so seriously and the people that laughed with me during the good times and cried with me during the bad.  The people I called when I was in need, and the people who knew I’d be there when they needed me.  Those are my friends, and today I celebrate them.

Take the time to celebrate your friends too!  Even if there are several states and time zones between you, pull out the old photo album and laugh at the good ole days.  Husbands and wives can come and go, and children will eventually grow up and get lives of their own.  Don’t forget about those people that were there for you before you became who you are today!  Meet for a “stroll down memory lane” cocktail. Send them a shout out text, or a let’s get caught up email.  Whatever you do, do it in the spirit of the friendship that will keep you bonded for the rest of your lives. 



June 21, 2007 - Posted by | Friendship, Girlfriends, Relationships


  1. Great Message! It was a good reminder that it’s time for me to make a few friendship dates. Good Luck with this new venture Jerzee Chick

    Comment by Shangazi | June 21, 2007

  2. Sometimes we all need to slow down and appreciate the struggle!

    Comment by stephan | June 22, 2007

  3. Reading this made me really reflect on what it is to be and have a true friend. I am glad that I have you as one. I am going to make some time this week to really sit down and communicate with my friends 🙂

    Comment by Nichelle | June 24, 2007

  4. This is so true.
    I have friends that i have been knowing for over 20 years.I do not keep in touch with them like I should, however I know that when I come home, we all will meet up and kick like we did back in the late 80’s early 91’s as if we never lost a beat ;-)I try to explain to my 18 year old niece, the differences between the friendships that I have at my age, and her friendhsips.At her age, she has yet to realize what the word ” friend” means.Girls her age, get caught up in the NOW, to where they are not realizing how important it is to surround yourself with people that are going to truly care about you/her.EVERYBODY plays a different role in yout life, and they are put in your life at any time for a particular reason.In my 12 years of being in GA, I have been blessed to meet people that remind me of ” the posse” at home.So now I have a Cinti possee and a Ga posse 😉

    I love all of my friends and I am very blessed to be apart of their lives and I am blessed to have them in my life 😉
    Take care

    Comment by tgilmore | June 25, 2007

  5. I must say this was & is very good. I’ve been so busy that I haven’t had the time to respond and/or say hello to my friends. Someone who used to be on top of everyone & everything. Some things have to give, that will be me in the coming weeks. Look forward to speaking with you. Smooches

    Comment by jerzeecook | June 28, 2007

  6. it’ funny that you mention those friends that would gladly cut someone for you because that is what matters to me and even though i doubt any of us are being literal when we say that, it matters to have someone that you know is down for you, ride or die, thick and/or thin (hello), rich or poor, sickness and health…. no amount of time or space erases true friendships. let’s git it poppin’.

    Comment by MikBaby | July 12, 2007

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