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In Loving Memory…

As a writer, I should never be at a loss for words.  I guess it’s tantamount to a stripper that has no rhythm.  Use of words is how I “shake my money maker”! In spite of that, yesterday I was at a loss for words.  A friend had died, and when I got the call I didn’t know what to say.  Surely it was a mistake, I thought.  But sadly it wasn’t a mistake, and sadder still my friend is gone.  This blog is dedicated to him, and all of you that may have lost someone near and dear too soon.

If you knew “B”, you couldn’t help but love him.  He was the strong silent type that could light up a room with his smile and laughter.  Our friendship basically was formed over our shared concern for someone that needed us at the time.

“B” was the type of friend you wanted around if you were ever in need.  Be it need of a barber, a diamond, or a good meal “B” had you covered.  He put us on to the best Japanese restaurant in Atlanta. When I was recovering from surgery and my cousin had to leave town on business, “B” was on deck with cranberry juice.  When I had a birthday BBQ, “B” got the chicken breast “hook up” for the grill.  We even had a secret baked beans contest because he thought the pineapple and ground beef made his recipe better than mine *not*!

What is it about death that makes us go through our mental Rolodex of memories? “B” died unexpectedly, but I know even when the death is due to a long illness we tend to be stunned when we get the call.  We immediately think of what we would have said if we had one more chance.  We cling to our memories as a source of comfort.  I’ll never forget the year “B” hosted the Y2K sleepover, or the way I made him laugh when I referred to his store as the “student union”. My memories of “B” are definitely a blessing, and I’d be even more of a wreck without them.

To everyone that has lost someone, as you move through the stages of grief remember how your loved one LIVED and NOT how they died!  We’ve heard the “til death do you part” phrase over and over again, but memories are yours to have and hold onto forever!  I’ve never been one to stand over a trash can fire and “pour a little out for the brothers that ain’t here”, but this blog was my way of honoring a good friend that died too soon.  My favorite “Off The Heezy” boy will be missed!



November 13, 2008 - Posted by | Family, Friendship, Life, Love, Society


  1. T.R.O.Y

    Comment by Venom | November 13, 2008

  2. Hey there,

    After the death of my brother”B” was right there….you may not hear him,but turn around and he was there.
    This is still a shock to me,I sat at my desk with my mouth open in disbelief when I got the call. I’ll never forget when I moved to the ATL “B” was my babysitter whenever I got a hair cut.He would get Ananda(2) at the time, out of the car and just let her stand behind the register like a big girl or sit on the couch and talk. She would never leave without some candy or a dollar.She thought the store was a daily stop for her after daycare.My heart goes out to his family……
    He will surely be missed.

    Comment by SassyL | November 13, 2008

  3. Words can´t express how I feel and what Bryan did for me and many others. I am still in complete shock. I would go on for days if I even tried to list all the things we did or all of the things that remind me of him. As I spent a few hours with his daughter yesterday, I did everything possible to fight back the tears, as she brought back all the memories of her father.

    Those of us who’s lives were touched by Bryan, we’ll never be the same.

    “B” may you rest in peace. WGH

    Comment by can´t commit clover | November 13, 2008

  4. We live this life so that we can live again. If we believe this, we will see “B” again… That thought alone makes me smile.

    Comment by Mag | November 13, 2008

  5. Whewwww, I just recv’d the call 2day and was and still stunned. Not “Bryan” as I called him because I only got a chance to meet him under a stressful situation. But knew he was good people because of his mild mannerism and wonderful smile. I can’t write much about him personally but Knew as long as he made my friends & family happy, he was definitely good people to be in the company of. WOW….gone but not 4gotten.

    Comment by JerzeeCook | November 14, 2008

  6. Bryan touched us all in different ways. He showed his kindness to me one day when I was stranded because my car would not start. Without hesitation, he handed me the keys to his Corvette.
    Death as we know it is destined for all. We get through it with memories and the comfort of knowing that we will see our loved ones again.
    My prayers go out to the family.


    Comment by rainie2 | November 17, 2008

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