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In ’09

2008 is officially over and 2009 is here.  All things considered this year flew by!  One minute I was cheering for the Giants at a Superbowl party and here I am getting ready to cheer them on again! *fingers crossed here* It seems like just yesterday when I was rooting for Barack Obama and complaining about Tiny Tears (okay maybe I did do that again yesterday), and in twenty days he’ll be sworn in! We are all blessed to see another year, so let’s do our part to make it a great one. As I stated last year, I really don’t do New Year’s Resolutions.  I prefer to try to make reasonable changes so that the coming year will be better than the last.  In 2009 I plan to make a couple of adjustments.


  1. Talk is cheap!  Have you heard that song by India Arie and Anthony David?  Well the chorus is simply: “Can’t tell you nothing you ain’t already heard.  No matter what I say it’s nothing but words.”  Truer “words” have never been spoken.  We should all be tired of people saying what they think we want to hear.  Don’t tell me, show me!  At the same time, I know I am at times guilty of too much talk and not enough action. So in ‘09 I won’t talk about it, I’ll be about it!
  2. Monitor my priorities!  We go through life trying to do so much for so many people and at the end of the day our efforts go unappreciated or taken for granted.  People won’t hesitate to tell you “no”, or “I can’t” all the while expecting you to move heaven and earth to make it happen for them.  Why bother?  In ‘09 I will stop making people a priority when they only see me as an option. 


My list is short and sweet.  Nothing over the top, just two things that should make 2009 a good year for me.  So Epiphanyblog, what will you do differently to make 2009 better than 2008?


January 1, 2009 Posted by | Holidays, Life, Opinion | 5 Comments

Someday At Christmas

Someday at Christmas men won’t be boys
Playing with bombs like kids play with toys
One warm December our hearts will see
A world where men are free


As we enter this holiday season, let us pray for the soldiers that are away from home, fighting a war that needs to be ended.


Someday at Christmas there’ll be no wars
When we have learned what Christmas is for
When we have found what life’s really worth
There’ll be peace on earth


As our country turns the page on the last eight years, let our hope be renewed in America.  This land that our forefathers bled and died for.  This land that stole their identity, but not their spirit, maybe now we will all be free.


Someday all our dreams will come to be
Someday in a world where men are free
Maybe not in time for you and me
But someday at Christmas time


The dream our forefathers would never say aloud is now a reality.  With that reality all dreams are possible.  There is no longer any excuse for complacency or doing anything other than your best.  You were raised without your father….you can be President one day.  Your mom is a struggling single parent…you can be President one day. Race and gender should no longer be the crutch that holds us back from achieving our highest goals.


Someday at Christmas we’ll see a Man
No hungry children, no empty hand
One happy morning people will share
Our world where people care


The state of the economy is not really conducive to a Merry Christmas.  Unemployment and Foreclosure rates are so high, but I believe even in this time people are coming together to help one another and meet each others needs.


Someday at Christmas man will not fail
Take hope because your love will prevail
Someday a new world that we can start
With hope in every heart


In this holiday season, may we all have the Audacity to Hope.  The Propensity to Dream and the Unmitigated Gall to make it happen!  Have a Merry Merry and a Happy Happy.  Be Safe!


December 24, 2008 Posted by | Holidays | 1 Comment

Tis The Season…

Let me start by saying in all things you should be gracious.  People don’t have to buy you a gift, and you should be happy that they thought enough of you at all.  Having said that, and knowing it’s the thought that counts it is also important to be a thoughtful giver!  Be it the office Secret Santa or your husbands sister…who wants to unwrap a box of foolishness?

As you hustle and bustle to pick up things for everyone on your list, please exercise a little gift giving etiquette.  We’ve all received a few less than stellar gifts at one point or another so here are a few Do’s and Don’ts to help you with those last minute decisions.

1.      Unless she is an avid collector, DON’T buy a woman over the age of ten a stuffed animal.  It screams last minute.  It screams gas station.  It screams cheap inconsiderate idiot.  I once had a guy give me a Morehouse teddy bear as a gift.  He didn’t attend Morehouse mind you.  I remember he showed up to my house all proud of that gift, like he did something *clown*.  My friends and I called it a bootleg Teddy Ruxpin, and I threw it away.

2.      DO find out her size before you break the bank in Victoria’s Secret. Lingerie that is too big or too small is a definite no-no! 

3.      DON’T do the Kwanza fake out.  Don’t get me wrong, hand made gifts are nice, but if people aren’t creative and craft savvy, the thought of making something nice might be intimidating.  My friends and I once decided to exchange Kwanza gifts.  It was a good idea for them, because they are all creative.  I can barely color in the lines so I won’t even tell you what I “made” for their gifts!

4.      DO keep his personal style in mind when you buy him a gift.  Even if you hate the way he wears his jeans, buying him a pair of skinny straight leg Rock and Republic’s is not the solution.  He won’t wear them, and that’s three hundred dollars you could have spent on yourself.

5.      DON’T buy Secret Santa gifts from the gas station.  At the very least, you can stop at the grocery store on your way to your office and visit their gift card rack.  No one wants to receive crap, not even the people at work that you don’t like.

6.      DO request a gift receipt.  Even if you think your taste is impeccable, someone else might not agree.  

7.      DON’T ever give anyone a Fruit Cake as a gift…PERIOD!

8.      DO say thank you! Even if you don’t like the gift, or even if you have seven just like it at home, smile and be gracious.   

As I compiled this list of do’s and don’ts I couldn’t help but think of all the bad gifts I’ve received.  There was the aforementioned bootleg Teddy Ruxpin.  There was the package of barrettes my aunt gave me when I was in my twenties (I had a short haircut and could barely curl it, let alone clip barrettes to it). To me those were bad gifts, but the very worst gift I EVER received was actually for Valentine’s Day.  The guy I was with at the time took a picture of us and had one of those characture cartoons drawn from it.  I was beyond disappointed.  When you think Valentine’s Day gift, you think flowers, jewelry, candlelight, romance.  Instead I got a cartoon.  A cartoon that didn’t even look like me.  A cartoon that was rolled up with a rubber band and still in the plastic sleeve.  So much for presentation!

So Epiphanyblog, can you top that?  As you check the gifts off your list and strive to be a thoughtful giver, what was the very worst gift you’ve ever received?


December 18, 2008 Posted by | Fun, Holidays, Laughter | 5 Comments

….In 08

2008 is here.  How many New Years Resolutions have you made?  How many have you already broken?  Personally I try not to make resolutions because it’s all just a set up.  I used to make these great declarations and then by Valentine’s Day I was back to my old routine.  What’s the point?  Granted sometimes when you want to start “fresh”, January 1st is a good time to do it, but what are you doing to make sure you stick to the resolution?

If you have resolved to lose weight, please tell me you are doing more than getting a new gym membership.  The people that hit the gym hard in January work my nerves!  I go to the gym year round, but from the first week in January until about mid February, I can’t get a parking space or a treadmill between 5 and 6 pm, because all y’all NYRP (New Years Resolution Perpetrators) are out in full force.  If you really have resolved to losing weight, start living like a skinny person.  Hit the malls hard and start buying outfits in the size that you aspire to be.  A pair of $200 jeans two sizes too small hanging in your kitchen will keep you from snacking between meals!

If you have resolved to finally open your own business this year, order your business cards and open that bank account.  You can talk about your business plan all day and all night, but if you don’t actually do SOMETHING different than you did in 07, you are gonna be saying the same thing when 2009 begins.  If you want to be a caterer, stop talking about it and start selling cakes at work.

If (for some reason which I don’t understand) you have designated 2008 as the year you will find a husband *sighs*, try a new approach….i.e. STOP LOOKING!!!!!  A watched pot never boils and you always find exactly what you need when you’re not looking.  By the same manner also, if 2008 is the year in which you plan to find a wife, here’s a piece of advice…..chances are you won’t run into her at the strip club.   I’m not saying you should go out and buy a wedding dress (please Lord, don’t do that), but if you aspire to be in a committed relationship maybe you should work on those aspects of your life that may not be conducive to happily ever after!  For example: if you are still creeping with your baby mama, you are NOT ready for a serious relationship *rolls eyes*!

Don’t get me wrong, some New Years Resolutions are good.  A friend was telling me she was resolved not to settle in 2008.….Excellent Resolution!  So many people didn’t get to see 2008, so the least we can do is make the best of it and not settle for the foolishness that slowed us down in 2007.

As for me, in 2008, I am taking a page out of MJB’s book (I told y’all I was a big time STAN for Mary J).  I’m a GROWN WOMAN!  I’m going to work what I got and show myself love!  (I got to enjoy myself regardless).  I appreciate my life, and at the end of the day it’s JUST FINE. 

Like I said, I don’t really do resolutions, but I like to reflect on the previous year and decide what I can do to make the New Year better.  We are all blessed to see 2008.  Whether 2007 was a banner year, or one filled with drama and strife, it’s a done deal.  We can’t go back, so let’s realistically look forward.  Resolutions aside, what are you going to do in 2008 to make it a better year than 2007?


January 3, 2008 Posted by | Holidays, Life, Society | 5 Comments

Christmas Break.

Hello Epiphany Bloggers,

Normally today I would hit you with a new post…something witty or something to make you think about the state of the world in which we live….but not today!  I just returned from spending Christmas with my family, and I shall now take a few days to get my mind right!  I hope you all had an enjoyable Christams spent with family and friends.  I hope you didn’t have to hail taxi’s on the middle of 5th Avenue on a cold winter night *sighs*. 

I hope you didn’t have to return your free range, organic over-priced cornish hens after you put time in stuffing them to perfection with your best cornbread dressing to Whole Foods *sighs again*.

All in all, I hope your holiday was everything you wanted and needed it to be.  And for those who felt their day was less splendid this year, you now have 364 days (cause 2008 is a leap year) to get ready for next year and ensure it will be the day you want it to be! 


December 27, 2007 Posted by | Holidays | Leave a comment

Happy Holidays

To our Epiphany readers,

As we embark upon a memorable holiday season, may the new year bring you and your loved ones health, success, and prosperity.


December 23, 2007 Posted by | Holidays | Leave a comment